“I want to change.”
“I need to change.”
“I’m afraid to change.”
“Why is it so hard to change?”
Change in habit. Change in physique. Change in health. Change in mindset. Change is hard for a lot of people because admitting you need to change is admitting failure.
In other words, you were wrong.
Now there’s a word, “wrong.”
Some folks have a serious problem with being wrong. You can also add that change is all sorts of unpleasant words, from “painful” to “intimidating” to “[insert preferred profanity here].”
Now … take a pause.
Let’s let some of this sink in.
I want to state the obvious: Finally admit what’s really holding you back.
It’s not a word or collection of words.
It’s an emotion.
A corroded piece of consciousness. Fear? Resignation? Self-loathing?
You can change.
Do it because you can.
Be strong. Be relentless.
Doing so means that you believe in the power of you.
YOU ARE WORTH THE CHANGE.
This might be tough for you to read and you might not like everything I have to say. But if you accept this advice as a genuine solution, you will why you can succeed where so many others fail.
Goal setting is the health equivalent of pressing the refresh button on your life. No matter what you did in the past, setting new goals is an opportunity to change everything. The process is as basic as it is motivating: Learn from the past and plan for a better future.
It’s a safe and effective approach that allows you to reinvent yourself, set new standards, and become the person you want to be. Unfortunately, if success was that easy you wouldn’t repeatedly set the same goals year after year. As you might know, willpower is a limited reserve. So really on it is far from a surefire way to accomplish way you want.
So what really separates the successful from the unsuccessful? And why do so many people constantly need to reset goals hoping for the best only to repeat the same failures? The goal-failure-success continuum really boils down to one simple factor, and making an adjustment to your approach could be the difference between achievement and failure.
The dirty little secret about goals is not complex.
Those who succeed are unwilling to quit. They want to taste success more than those who don’t.
More importantly, those who succeed understand realistic expectations and timelines of progress and change.
This isn’t meant to be depressing. Instead, it should be just the opposite. It will allow you to set realistic goals that won’t drive you insane. We all have the desire to be better. In fact, that’s what motivates most people to set goals in the first place. But after working with tons of people and hearing countless stories—both of successes and failures—the most common reason for success is the relentless drive to succeed.
This is not a blame-game or a lack of respect for whatever hurdles stand in your way. I’ve failed at plenty of my goals too.
This is a reality check that everyone needs to accept, yet few ever mention. Changing your body, losing weight, gaining muscle, quitting smoking—every goal you desire will be difficult to achieve.
At some point, you’re going to hit a bump in the road, confronted with a challenge, and begin to doubt your ability to make real, lasting change.
Many view this as a bad thing. In reality, this is the inevitable situation you must confront if you want to have long-term success.
Reaching this point is not the problem; it’s how you react after it occurs.
Approach your goals with eyes wide open.
Have hope. Be an optimist. And believe that anything is possible. And then tell yourself that when you get knocked down, you will pick yourself back up.
Every. Single. Time.
Do it for your family. Do it for your friends. Do it for the people you love. And most importantly: Do it for you.
Once you achieve that mindset, the rest is comparatively easy.
Your job should be limited to one single focus: Take action and don’t stop until you achieve your goals.
You can be the change.
But change doesn’t start with making a list of goals, finding a great workouts, or finally settling on a diet that you can follow.
It begins with a hard look in the mirror and a determination that your health is worth fighting for.
It’s time to make it count. Take the first step and get ahold of me by connecting with me through this site or sending me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. Don’t accept failure as an option, and you’ll never again doubt that you can uncover your best. You will have my support during the whole process. I’m here for you.