How to Inspire Your Spouse to Get Fit:
When I started my fitness journey 3 years ago – my husband and I took the journey on together.
We actually lost a combined 100-ish pounds over the course of a year and have kept it off since! (Pretty crazy, right?!) And ever since then our health has remained a huge priority in our lives and in our relationship.
But because of that, not a day goes by where I don’t have a message land in my inbox asking me how you can help inspire your spouse to get more into fitness. And while I may not hold all the answers – I do have some tips that I think can be super helpful in achieving what may seem like mission impossible!
First I need you to understand that you can’t nag somebody fit. (And this goes both ways.) Deciding to be a healthier person is typically an inside job – so before you start taking jabs at your hubby or wife, realize that it’s less about what you say and more about what you DO! (That’s right… no “hey babe, maybe think about putting down the donut.”) 😉
Watching somebody live their best life is pretty dang inspiring, so my first recommendation would simply be to set the example! I see far too many people use their significant other, circle of friends, or family members as an excuse for coming up short on their OWN personal fitness goals, but at the end of the day… you are a grown ass woman and changing your life + habits is up to no one but YOU! It’s a little bit of that “set some goals, stay quiet about them, smash the sh*t out of them, and clap for your damn self” mentality. When you have your fitness game on lock, it’s natural for those around you to be inspired to join you!
Next realize that NO ONE wants to start up a new lifestyle that they think is going to be torturous and that will potentially suck all of the fun out of their life, so be aware of instances where you complain to your spouse about not wanting to workout, or being tempted by junk food, etc. For me…. until I found out that fitness and healthy eating could actually be fun, and wasn’t going to seem like a restrictive punishment – I just couldn’t seem to commit. Once I realized that HEALTHY DIDN’T HAVE TO SUCK, I was all in!
And while we’re on the topic of food, maybe try making some sneakily healthy meals throughout the week! Take some time to Pinterest fun healthy “copycat” recipes of your spouse’s favorite meals. Whip up some protein brownies! Start associating healthy with delicious and totally not sucky! 🙂
The same can be said for getting active as a couple! Exercise doesn’t have to mean “I go to the gym and lift weights for an hour or two everyday”. Go out for hikes on the weekend. Make it a habit to go on an early morning or after dinner walk everyday to talk and catch up with one another. Search for a couple bikes on Craigslist or Facebook Marketplace to start taking bike rides together. Hit up a rock climbing gym or new yoga studio. Maybe start a home workout routine together like we chose to do! The key here is to find a form of fitness that seems more like spending quality time together than it does a torturous sweat sesh. WE’RE TAKING BABY STEPS HERE PEOPLE!
And at the end of the day…. it’s never a bad idea to share YOUR personal “why” for living a healthy life with your spouse (in a non pushy way) so they realize just how much it means to you, and why you value a healthy routine. You may not be into one of your spouse’s favorite sports or hobbies, but when you realize how much it means to them – you learn to love it too. The same thing will happen with your fitness journey if you come from a place of authentic love and desire to live your best lives together.
I hope this helps!